This August, Brent and I will celebrate our 20th wedding anniversary. In this day and age, that’s a long time to be married.
We have had a pretty smooth marriage. It hasn’t been perfect. We’ve definitely had our struggles. But, for the most part, we’ve done well.
I was thinking that I could write a bit about why I believe we’ve been successful so far. But then I thought…I don’t want it to be one-sided.
Which brings me to this question/idea. And I know it might be stupid or presumptuous, but I’m puttin out there anyway…
Would a video from Brent and me of marriage chatter, prompted by questions from you, be something that might be fun?
You can ask any questions you want, respectfully, of course, and we’d do our best to answer them for you.
Look, I’m not saying we have it all figured out. And we certainly aren’t a perfect couple. But we’ve lasted. We love each other more today than ever. I still get excited when I know he’s on his way home. After THIS LONG.
So, what d’ya think??
I won’t feel bad if you shoot it down. Really.
But if you do…you better give me another blog idea!
Sounds awesome! Seriously.
dang. ok then!
I could watch ten videos a day of someone telling me how miserable they are. It would be a bit refreshing to hear something positive
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mmm…kinda had that thought in my head too.
…please?
but really. it's always encouraging and inspiring to hear other people talk about what works for their marriage, and a conversation between husband and wife is even better, since (like you said) it addresses both sides.
i think it would be fun to do videos with brent. i also think it would be fun if we didnt just talk, just to talk…but we actually responded to all y'alls questions. so i'm hoping we get some good ones!
Love. This.
I'd also love to hear what your kids think about marriage/family. I think our kids can be barometers to our marriages.
Yes? No?
that is a great idea….yes!!
I like that idea!
Yes, please do! I am surrounded by so many terrible marriages – I would LOVE to hear thoughts from a successful couple. (I'm not married, but I would like to be one day.)
im sorry for that, rachel.
ok questions:
1.) what gets you through the hard times..I know Jesus..but what makes you push through (hope this makes sense)
2.) what advice can you give someone who has been married for 3 years now
3.) what does serving your wife truly mean and how does that look?
4.) how do you honor your wife?
5.) what has worked in your marriage and what hasn’t
Hope these questions aren’t too confusing. If you need some clarification hit me up on twitter and let me know!
Y’all are awesome!
love these questions, friend! thank you…
Question…
How did you find such a hot husband!
answer…
well…it was summer…
Oh ya, I was wearing my short fluorescent shorts. Hot…
it's amazing we've lasted THIS LONG.
love this idea!
and i couldn't help but mmhmmm at "THIS LONG".
heh. mmhmmm.
and how do you think it's worked for so many years??
wait. what.
just realized i thought about this post idea. sat on it for a couple days. decided to write it. posted it. shared it on twitter. and never once talked to brent about it.
hehe.
I dig the idea! Don't know that I have any questions as of now, especially as a single fella.
This is an awesome idea.
Here is a few questions:
1. How does your illness, effect or affect your marriage?
2. How much time do you spend alone on a date night really? (not hypothetically)
3. As Brent is a pastor, do you or himself catch yourself ever in that " I am pastor's wife mode?
4. Since your life is so open like a large fishbowl now, do you regret not having privacy and being unknown once again?
5. How do you as couple stand against critcism?
6. What is one thing that only Tammy or Brent has to say to make it better?
Love ya guys!
great questions!
Great Idea, Tam. I think a parody of the Cleaver's would be a good way to kick it off. Black and White video required for that one. Anything that tones down the florescent shorts.
so funny, ric! fortunately…those shorts are gone now. but he's hanging on to that diamond rio shirt 0_o
Um AWESOME idea. I know this might come as a surprise…but some people out there in the big wide world look up to you guys. They are crazy people though. Totally not me.
1.) Why can't Brent have a mullet AV again on twitter?
and That would be an awesome gift for me if you did…since it was just my birthday
And then I had a few suggestions:
*Prayerfully be mindful of those individuals who may struggling in their marriages right now; absolutely celebrate and rejoice in your testimony but also be honest about your storms so that people in current storms can be encouraged.
*Maybe incorporate some Biblical support for the longjevity of your marriage?
*Share any resources that may have helped (books, workshops, etc.)
Okay I'll be on my merry way now before you get tired of me
Love youuuuu!
LOVE the idea.
okay…questions.
so, when you get married, you are melding two separate people with two separate lists of goals and dreams and passions. how do you reconcile those two lists together (literally/practically) without sacrificing too much from one person or the other?
have you ever had any "in law" issues that caused troubles between the two of you? and if so, how did/do you work through it?
what are some individual strengths and weaknesses each of you have that you feel work together to help compliment your marriage and each other?
im excited about these q's!!!!!
What were your first big "fights," how did you move through them, and what did you learn from them? What made you decide to get married when you did? What were negotiables and non-negotiables?
i can answer the non-negotiables now…he could not wear my clothes.
hi.
i am SO all for it. . .as long as it includes <2 farts or burps. . .just sayin
gross.
but probably will happen.
DO.IT!!
SO gonna!!
yay!
i really like these questions. i love the depth. thank you so much, les
love you mucho!