The past is the past. Today is now. Tomorrow is full of hope.
I challenged a friend to say this out loud each morning before their feet hit the floor. Easy words to say but not easy to live out.
The past is the past? What does that even mean, Tam? I’ve never been able to forget my past. The saying, “forgive and forget”… Forgive? Yes. Forget? I’m not sure we truly can. In spending years dealing with my past I have learned a few things.
1-While it is hard to bless and release offenders, it is one of the most therapeutic, powerful and freeing choices one can make.
2-Forgiving does not equal condoning, it equals releasing their/its power over you.
3-Past memories that often creep into mind can serve as two powerful tools…
* Uninvited memories of offenses can be valuable reminders to empathize with others currently struggling to forgive.
* Memories of poor past decisions personally made can serve as reminders of whom we do not want to be again.
4-Invite a handful of safe, and trusted, people to surround you. Get honest and vulnerable before them and allow them to help you navigate through healing and forgiving.
5-Sit quietly with God as often as you can. Just listen. Be still and know He is God…we are not.
Choosing to sit in the past is like hardening cement to the soul – quick sand to the heart. Dig out. The fight is worth it.