Here are my thoughts. Take it or leave it. Love it or hate it.
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Hurt…in one word…hurts.
We all experience hurt. It is unescapable. It is a part of life. It comes in multiple levels.
One seems easier. Stay where you are. It’s all you know. It’s your normal.
One requires no work. It takes work to heal. To move on. To forgive. To focus on the future and not the past. To choose to trust again.
Outsiders often encourage the hurt by justifying. Babying. “It’s ok. You’re the victim here.” They’re enablers. And, often times, they have no idea that they are enabling. It is no fault of theirs.
We get comfortable with attention, regardless if it’s negative or positive. Attention is attention. It intrigues people.
Others reach out to the hurt because they know it’s right. The good in them compels them to want to help.
The victim receives that extension, and it is beneficial for a season. Often times, that season extends beyond its practical length. And, in turn, becomes a crutch and a comfort.
In all reality, you can become addicted to hurt. Some may feel that the only way they can get attention is by ”playing the victim”.
It’s not healthy. It’s manipulative. It can stunt emotional and spiritual growth. Ultimately, I believe that none of us truly desire that.
I realize this a very strong post. But, hear me out. Wait… read me out. I would never write this, had I not lived it myself. This would be an opinion if I were an outsider looking in. But, this was once me.
{This post was inspired by recent messages from Cross Point Church}
