Jul 23

July 23, 2014

I Made A Cashier Cry

I do part of my grocery shopping at Walmart Supercenter. I know, some of you just had anxiety attacks. Our Supercenter is pretty decent and I, occasionally, enjoy my experience there. I do a few things the same way every time I visit. I enter on the left where the cosmetics, cat food, and ibuprofen are. I gradually make my way to the center of the store and mentally buy everything in housewares. Third stop is the right side of…

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Jul 22

July 22, 2014

When Relationships Are Toxic

Forgiveness is so hard. Let’s be honest – there are some people in your life that when you think about them it makes you squint your whole face super hard. Holding grudges is even harder. Holding grudges, not forgiving, holds you hostage. Not only does your whole face squint at the thought of someone but so does your entire being…down to your soul. Forgiving someone and wondering what the next step should be is pretty hard, too. There are times…

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Jul 20

July 20, 2014

I Didn’t Mean To Make You Pay

Mom, it’s just…sometimes I feel you treat me like I’m going to do the same things you did when you were my age.   The one thing I swore to myself I wouldn’t do I have done. When Kassidi was born I made her promises. I made her a lot of promises. Sweet first born, I promise you I will not put you in harms way. Ever. I promise I will tell you “I love you” every single day. I…

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Jul 14

July 14, 2014


It’s Not The Abuse. It’s The Moments After The Abuse…

The hardest part about abuse isn’t the abuse itself. I mean, yes, being assaulted physically and left bruised and bloody is pretty tough and painful, but, there’s something worse. Hiding the abuse. If you just cringed inside while reading the above statement then I am sorry. Because you, likely, have been abused and can relate to what I’m saying. Child abuse is tough because you’re usually put in the position of having to protect someone. For me it was my…

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Jun 18

June 18, 2014

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A 3C Prayer

  A while back I was praying for my bestest when three words kept illuminating and bouncing across my thoughts. Calm. Clarity. Courage. Not giving them much attention, I continue to pray for my friend. But those three little words kept making huge appearances in my minds eye. So I paused and rested with them for a moment. Struck that there were 3 C’s (it’s a bestest thing) but taken even more by their order. Calm. This preceded Clarity. The…

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Jun 17

June 17, 2014

A Sticky Confession

I have a huge childhood confession. Like, pretty big. And, pretty gross. Actually, there are two confessions. One will make you grit your teeth and the other just might send you running from me forever in disgust. Keep in mind I’m about 4-6 years old during this time. My apologies in advance. 1-Wrigley’s Gum. The stick gum. The original flavor in the yellow pack. The one whose flavor only last about 5.2 minutes. I chewed that gum all the time….

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Jun 12

June 12, 2014


I Feel Gifted…

I just ran across this notebook from 2005 with some pages of notes in it from, what looks like, a conference of some sort. One page quickly caught my eye when I read the words, “I feel gifted…” What did I feel gifted at nine years ago? “Where do I naturally excel? Where do I feel gifted?” (Assuming this was a speakers question for the audience) “I excel in writing and creating and dreaming. I’m naturally a problem solver –…

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Jun 10

June 10, 2014

My Dumb Prayer Requests

I am so crafty, strategic, and tricky with my prayer requests sometimes. Some girlfriends and I were sharing what we can pray for for one another. Theirs were deep, life changing, challenging prayer requests. Mine…an admission of laziness hidden behind faux spiritual verbiage. “I’d like prayer to become more disciplined.” Really, Tam? You can’t work on that one on your own? You wanta sit back and have your girlfriends pray it into being so you won’t have to work on…

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May 20

May 20, 2014


Own Your Story

It has taken me a long time to own my story. We all have one. We each sit here an unfinished story, but, a work of art. Some of you may not feel like a work of art. I didn’t for most of my life. I’ve been writing a book for over 10 years. Yes, one book. Why 10 years? Because I wasn’t owning my story. Let me bullet point some highlights for you…  Physically abused as a child. Sexually…

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May 18

May 18, 2014

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I Don’t Care That I Was On ABC’s Nashville!

      It’s true…I was on the very popular show, Nashville. A total of six different shots, in fact, but still no big deal. Like, at all. I shared only one mention about it on the social medias then engaged in conversation that followed. But I have to be honest – I don’t care that I was on the show. A friend told me it aires in over 50 countries…That doesn’t mean anything to me. You want to know…

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